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Saturday, October 10, 2015

battling homesickness

 “I can’t wait to get out of this school and this town.” I see these words tweeted all the time from kids in my hometown. I hear them so often when I am home. Personally, I don’t know how many times I said these words during my senior year of high school. Probably a lot. So I searched long and hard for that college far, far away. I thought Texas would be a perfect escape; Texas A&M University, warm weather, new people, Nolan, & independence.

It was perfect at first. I had a cute little apartment to decorate, thousands of organizations I could join, friends to make, and endless opportunities. So I jumped in head first. But then I sank. I found out quickly that decorating is expensive, so are groceries, school supplies, and basically everything in college. I didn’t get accepted to the only women’s organization I applied to (a common problem for a confident freshman). And I quickly learned that if you find a friend in a class of 350 people, but don’t get their number, chances are you probably won’t see that person again. Believe it or not, out of that sixty thousand people in College Station, it is so hard to find a good friend.

Now, here I am struggling through week six, homesick for small town, Pennsylvania. It’s weird, I have always been so proud of my courageousness, confidence, and independence. I never pictured myself as one who would search for cheap plane tickets daily and find events like Homecoming or a cattle show a “good reason” to come home. Unfortunately, last minute plane tickets are not cheap and driving 24 hours both ways for a weekend home is crazy. So I have found other ways to cope:

Find your passion 

Obviously I liked something about Texas, or I wouldn’t be here. For me, it’s the land and agriculture. So on the weekends, Nolan and I find something to do and take our time getting there; stopping every couple miles, or less, to take pictures. In Texas, in every direction you go you’ll find beautiful (well to us at least) farmland and thousands of cattle. We take advantage of this abundance and feed our passion.

Do something that reminds you of home

Nothing says home to me like a county fair. When the radio man said, “Neal McCoy at the Waller County Fair”, I knew I had to be there. Well, the Waller Co. Fair was small, and I mean even smaller than my beloved Somerset County Fair. But I did find that sense of home watching their sale of champions, while eating fries with cheese and drinking lemonade, and again at the rodeo. Finally, as we were watching Neal McCoy shake it, I realized this was by far the most fun Nolan and I had since our move to Texas. For a while, I forgot about being 1,000 miles from home.

FaceTime, Skype, whatever

FaceTime and Skype have been a saving grace for me while dealing with my homesick blues. I FaceTime my momma (and my dogs, cats, and ducks) regularly and I LOVE IT. I also have Skype dates with my best friends back home and my best friend in the ARMY (I am so proud). Just last Sunday, I found out via FaceTime that one of my best friends got engaged. It was SO much better than any call or text I could have gotten. So text your friend, mom, grandma, whoever and say, “hey, tonight if you’re free let’s have a Skype or FaceTime date” and it will be wonderful, I promise.

Use Social Media

Like Skype and Facetime, I love social media! I use Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter to keep up with family and friends while I’m away. Both of my grandmas and Nolan’s grandma are on Facebook, and I think that’s adorable! So I try to post pictures often for family. Sometimes I feel extra obligated to post on Facebook, so my mom doesn’t have to inform me that, “so and so hasn’t seen you on Facebook in a while and they want to know are you having fun/doing okay in college?” As far as Instagram and Twitter go, same concept, just for more of our generation.   

Try to Make a Few Friends

It’s so easy to be antisocial and watch Netflix for hours upon hours, but it doesn’t hurt to take a few minutes to talk to your neighbor when you’re out. Our super nice neighbors have an adorable dog named Jagger, so being the animal lovers that we are, that is how we made friends! Just by chatting when we saw them out, buying Jagger treats, and being friendly, we have friends. Easier said than done, right?

I am definitely still learning to cope with this monster called “homesickness”. But whether you’re a senior in high school considering colleges or a college student going through the same thing, I hope this little bit of insight helps!



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